Motivational Monday

Can mountains be moved?

Can mountains be moved?

“She may be quiet but she’s a warrior and her prayers can move mountains.” – Unknown   I flew into San Diego, California this past weekend to be with three of my closest friends and the newest addition to our family.  This trip was well overdue, and after the few weeks I’ve had…I DESERVED IT!   As our flight began to descend Into the San Diego airport I raised the shade on my window (because Erykah Badu told me to…

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I’m Dope…Successful…Educated…FULL OF MELANIN…BUT TOO HUMBLE! HELP!

I’m Dope…Successful…Educated…FULL OF MELANIN…BUT TOO HUMBLE! HELP!

Have you ever thought, “I don’t want to seem brag-uh-do-shus, but I’ve accomplished a lot in my life.” Yeah…Me Neither… Lol. Seriously, do you find yourself being too humble because you are trying to accommodate others? WHY?????? I was on a social network this week talking about this very thing.  I found that I don’t always “BIG UP” myself.  I never talk about my accomplishments! The fear of offending my superiors, or coming off as Ms. Narcissist or Ms. Brag-Different….

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How do you face your FEARS after the age of 30?

How do you face your FEARS after the age of 30?

In our teens we had all the right answers.  You know, when we turned 18, we were smelling ourselves.  Everything that our peers, and parents wanted us to believe or say we rebelled.  Some of us… The twenties are the time when you’re finding yourself, or the period of risk taking. Right? Well, what do you do after you turn 30? You can either decide to play it safe, or GO FOR IT!  Risk it all, or nah? Traveling with…

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PUT ME IN COACH! What to do once you’re in the 4th Quarter of the “Game (of Life)?”

PUT ME IN COACH! What to do once you’re in the 4th Quarter of the “Game (of Life)?”

I try to always be honest with you. Seriously, I spend my time putting together the events of my life or those around me in order to encourage you every week. But… Ummm… This fourth quarter has snuck up on your girl.  :-/ I spent the 3rd quarter of 2017 preparing for the most crucial time of the year, and I can’t believe that it’s here.  And the coach of all coaches is saying, “RJ, I need you. Get off…

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When to say No to others, and YES to SELF…

When to say No to others, and YES to SELF…

“Reclaiming My Time!” The statement by “Auntie” Rep. Maxine Waters is probably the quote of the year…or shoot the decade if you ask someone else. Even though the quote was used during a heated political session it can pertain to so many areas of our lives. If you were around for previous posts I talk about how much I learned from working in Dallas.  The work schedule was rigorous, and let’s be honest it’s hard to find good help.  There…

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What happens when you decide NOT to be the Angry Black Woman?

What happens when you decide NOT to be the Angry Black Woman?

This one is for my sistahs! If you are working at a 9-5, think about your office dynamic.  When something pops off everyone looks at you to react.  Especially if you are the only brown face in the office.  Let’s see how the “black girl” is going to respond… I can remember when I was the only black in the office, and I can also remember situations when the brown faces were the majority.  It doesn’t take away from the…

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I don’t have a bucket list…I have DESIRE moments!

I don’t have a bucket list…I have DESIRE moments!

On my Great-Aunt’s 90th birthday I told her that I wanted to see her before the summer was over.  April 1996 was the last time I saw her, and for years I’d been begging my dad to visit her in California. So… I watched plane tickets EVERY WEEK since our conversation in May.  Months ago I vowed not to let any grass grow under my feet.  Then at 5:00 am one morning I saw that the airline ticket price dropped….

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When you realize that your GIFT can take you places…

When you realize that your GIFT can take you places…

My past is more lit than the SOLAR ECLIPSE. Well, it’s not exactly “blinding” but I can say I have been exposed to some pretty dope opportunities. I believe I told you before from time to time I “Google” myself.  I need to know what’s out there, and the narrative that is being shared about yo girl. I’m going through the images and even though I don’t have a common first name I share it with fellow dope brown girls…

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The moment you visualize all your dreams coming true…

The moment you visualize all your dreams coming true…

Within the last two months I’ve visited about five theaters across the country.  Scoping out places to screen the documentary that I’m working on and envisioning people in the seats. When I stood on stage at the Colony Theater in Miami, Florida during the American Black Film Festival this year I saw myself on that stage.  I looked to my right and saw a fellow staff member (main photo) in deep thought.  I didn’t disturb her because I was in…

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Setbacks…Comebacks…What do they mean to a 30 something year old?

Setbacks…Comebacks…What do they mean to a 30 something year old?

My mom gave me this book called, “It’s Time For Your Comeback…” by Tim Storey the last year of my 20s.  I was re-enrolling in Grad School after dealing with LIFE (burn accident, surgeries, father’s death).  Let’s just say a sistah was going through some thangs. This book allowed me to not let my past define where I was going for the future, and necessary steps to keep pushing forward.  After finishing the book I thought to myself man my…

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