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What happens when you decide NOT to be the Angry Black Woman?

What happens when you decide NOT to be the Angry Black Woman?

This one is for my sistahs!

If you are working at a 9-5, think about your office dynamic.  When something pops off everyone looks at you to react.  Especially if you are the only brown face in the office.  Let’s see how the “black girl” is going to respond…

I can remember when I was the only black in the office, and I can also remember situations when the brown faces were the majority.  It doesn’t take away from the fact that EVERYONE expects for us to lose our cool when placed in certain situations.

When I know I am on the brink of no return with my attitude I hear my father’s voice very clearly.  As if he’s sitting on my shoulder with wings wearing his work uniform (displaying his name) and glasses.  “Hey, now what did I tell you, never…let…em…see…you…sweat!”

Ah yes dad, you did tell me that.

I was cleaning up my office area over the weekend and came across this folder.


I read the contents of the folder.


Simple.  I wanted to keep the letter that jump started this amazing journey of being transparent.  I completed a children’s book two weeks after receiving the letter.  No lie…

That letter is the reason my story is published in HuffPost, Business Insider, CNBC to name a few.

When I received this letter I was excited.  It spooked my former boss out.  How could I be so calm when my life seemed to be heading for “Shambles Street?”

Honestly, I was planning my exit strategy to submit a letter by August 31, 2015.  My God said Nope…that’s not MY PLAN.  I’m going to release you in July, and you will receive unemployment.

What would flipping out in that office do for me?  Besides being escorted from the premises in hand cuffs.  I wouldn’t have achieved anything that day by acting ugly.  I knew in the end that I was winning.  I was miserable, and they were doing me a huge favor.

Ladies.  I’m convinced that some things are done intentionally to get a rise out of us.  It’s our choice of how we respond to the nonsense.  I am quite proud of my performance that day.  It taught me so much about myself, and how God uses people/situations to get you to where you are supposed to be.  I’m #SteeleThankful for that entire experience.  I have so much material for a One-Woman show, and who knows I may headline at the same venue that laid me off one day.  Anything is possible.


That quote from my dad still works.




Termination/Layoff Letter received July 2015 Manicure – Mojito Madness by Essie Adventures of Alleykats: The Missing President by R.J. Williams (Yours Truly)
Rites of Passage: What I learned 15 years after my high school graduation…

Rites of Passage: What I learned 15 years after my high school graduation…

Early morning calls and late night text messages would sum up my last week.

It’s been fifteen years since I walked across the football field at Benton Harbor High School.  I was honored to witness the class of 2017 enter the ramp to participate in the graduation festivities.  Embarking upon an unforgettable experience.

It was a beautiful day, and the bleachers were packed with loved ones waiting to celebrate the annual event.  I stood on the bridge looking over greeting the seniors and some that I had the privilege of working with over the last six months.  They were entering the ramp for the last time as seniors, and would return to the ramp after commencement as alumni.  What a feeling, right?

I watched the students march down the ramp, and thought to myself they will never experience this moment again.  I hope they embrace everything that this moment has to offer.  For many of them they didn’t believe that this moment would ever come, or if they would live to see this day.  They will now make the decisions of pursuing a collegiate experience, military, or entering the workforce.

I had many takeaways, but I’ll list a few:

  1. Embrace every special moment.  Some times it takes years to prepare for one day.  A day that you will never forget.
  2. Take risks.  Pray about it first,  because sometimes the risk is worth the reward.
  3. Don’t apologize for your journey.  It’s yours, and no one else’s.

To my 2k17 babies and all the graduates of 2017, YOU GOT THIS! Greatness is ahead, go and get it!



Why do we Fear being SUCCESSFUL?

Why do we Fear being SUCCESSFUL?

It seems as though we only focus on the fear of failing.  The fear of venturing into the area of unknown, everything that comes along with it, but I don’t want to talk about failing today.

Focal point: Success

In order to be successful we have to take risks, right?  I’ll be the first to admit that a spirit of perfectionism can creep in and cause a lack of confidence when I’m in the editing process for work.  I’ve taken my fair share of risks from moving out of state for the first time with $100 for graduate school to relocating to a place for employment.  Not once did I think about the fear of being successful until last month.

We can celebrate everyone else’s wins but afraid of having our own.  Trust me, it’s a thing.  We can share, tag, like, and even put in a good word for others, but frightened by what would happen if that same blessing happened to us.

A mundane mindset will eventually occur because we were too scared of what comes with the level of success that will follow.

I had to think about the feeling I had completing my final paper for graduate school, or the final edit for the first book in the Adventures of Alleykats series was frustrating but I KNEW what was on the other side.  Completion.

Reach out to that person that you believe could honestly answer the question: Is the feeling of success overwhelming, and how did you handle the “level up” phase?

I challenge you to find new outlets for your road to success this week.  Stop complaining about your current situation if you aren’t willing to do anything to change the outcome of your future.

We got this! All faith, no fear.




Back to Me: iResearch, iCreate, iPublish

Back to Me: iResearch, iCreate, iPublish

Do you struggle with expressing your strengths?  **slowly raises hand**

I know that I can do a better job with my elevator pitch.  In the past, I didn’t want to come across as being boastful, or arrogant.  Then it hit me; a reminder.

My Dean in graduate school told me that I was too modest when it comes to celebrating my strengths.  I thought that was her way of calling me humble, but no she was saying that I don’t use my gifts enough.  There are some things that you would have no idea that I could do unless I told you, or had the courage to show you.

For example, I was at work and I began speaking with a community partner about the Final 48 Project.  She was blown away by the stories that were being told on the site.  We began talking about another community leader, and I kid you not 15 minutes later he walked through the door.  I couldn’t make this up.  This was the first time outside of our business hours that I knew about this leader stopping by.

The snowball effect continued.  I was on a roll that afternoon.  I spoke to the community leader about my project, and just like that I have a radio interview scheduled for next week.

I challenge everyone this week to express to someone new the importance of your gift.  I started on social media, and received some of the best feedback ever.  Here’s my caption for the featured photo:

Hi, my name is R.J. I am a trained Archivist (specializing in 18th and 19th century manuscript) and Researcher. I create dope content for @final48project and published the first book in the @alleykatsbooks series. Don’t be shy. Introduce yourself. Let your gifts be known. 😉 #browngirlbloggers

Don’t be too humble that you allow an opportunity to pass you by.  I’m getting back to me, and letting the world know the gifts that God has blessed me with.

Go forth and be great! You got this!